Have you heard about affirmations before?
They are usually a positive sentence/phrase that you can repeat to yourself (or in my case to clients) to help shape a more positive outlook on an individual and their situation.
They are helping us with the way we think, belief or look at the world!
But why is this important during labour/birth and postpartum?
You may be just saying these affirmations at first but don’t believe that they are true. The more you use them, the more they can help you over time to reshape your beliefs.
So during labour it can help women to have a more positive perception of who they are and what they can do. The mind is a very powerful tool that we can use to achieve a positive birth experience as well as in the postpartum period.
Some benefits of affirmations are a greater awareness of your thought process, greater feelings of gratitude and research has even shown that it can boost your problem solving skills!
According to Psychology Today:
“Affirmations can be a powerful tool to help you change your mood, state of mind, and manifest the change you desire in your life. “
So affirmations are pretty neat, right?!
They can not only help us in our everyday life but we can adjust them to be fitted to us, our personality and situation.
If a birthing person has fears and concerns about birthing their babies, using an affirmation can help change this outlook and make them feel positive going into labour.
I just recently learned myself what kind of importance positivity and fear can have during labour, to draw a better picture please see the next image:
A lot of women experience fear of childbirth for different reasons. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the contractions and the pushing. Fear of the pain. There are many factors that could lead women to fear and possibly lead them down the fear-tension-pain cycle.
The idea is that a labouring women needs constant emotional support to help them cope with their pain and relax to escape that cycle. And that’s when different comfort measures start being useful.
As Doula’s we are being trained in different techniques from massages to providing different birthing positions and so much more, but one powerful tool are affirmations.
Providing these we can help our clients prepare for a positive birth and even positive postpartum experience. We can let them know how powerful words and their mind can be.
Even though affirmations are meant to be positive and lift us up, we do have to remember that there is lots we have to take into account for childbirth and even parenthood. It is important to remember not to cling too hard on some affirmations and to be open to change around us. (You know what’s even better? I can make an affirmation out of this: “Be open to change!” 😉 )
So remember, the nice thing about affirmations is that we can use them when we need them the most and personalize them to our situations because every individual is different.
Did you have a long and hard day caring for your baby and parenting?! Remind yourself that you are strong. Remind yourself of the positive things in your life. Remind yourself that even those tantrums will pass.
Sometimes we need a little kick in the butt or reassurance that we are doing a good job, because parenting is probably one of the hardest things we’ve ever done. So leave yourself some uplifting phrases around the house.
Stick one on the fridge to look at on a daily bases to remind you that you are a great parent. Or stick another on your bathroom mirror to remind you that you are beautiful inside and out.
You can do it mom’s and dad’s ! Let’s cheer one another on in this journey!
Find some of my favourite affirmations on my